Coaching – A View From the Sidelines


The Pull
February 21, 2010, 10:23 pm
Filed under: Uncategorized

It has been a while since I posted. So here goes nothing!

Coaching has always been an integral part of our lives.  Kelly grew up the daughter of a Varsity Basketball coach, and coaching is what I had always wanted to do.  I am glad that she knew what she was getting into when she married me.  I am so blessed to have an understanding woman to share my life with.

Coaching has taken us all over the eastern part of the state of North Carolina.  We have lived in multiple cities, and made many friends in all of our stops.  We have liked some places more than others and there have been good reasons for each of our moves, but not all of them have worked out how we hoped.  That has been a chance we have taken each time we have packed up and moved to a new town.

One of the things we are always looking for when we get to these places is that feeling of being “home.”  There have been pieces of that each town or city we have been in that gave us that feeling.  The closest we have gotten to feeling “home” is here in Washington.  Here we have made great friends, we have found a church, and we enjoy just being here.

The one thing that has hampered each and every move is the pull to be closer to family.  This has been building over the last few years.  Before we have made a move we have always discussed the impact it would have on Kelly, myself, and the boys.  We would also discuss how it would impact our family as a whole.  But we have been so happy out here in Little Washington that it hasn’t been a big issue.

Kelly has extended family spread out over the US, but her parents have lived in NC since the early 70’s and Kelly and her sister have lived here their whole lives.  My family is concentrated in just a couple spots in NC and SC.

The pull is what has brought us from place to place over the last 10 years.  It has been the pull of family safety, financial security, exceptional educational opportunities for our children, and more.  There has been more of a pull towards family in the recent months, especially with the death of my grandfather.  It was wonderful seeing ALL of the family over the weekend of the funeral, but I just wish it would have been under different circumstances.

It would be a hard decision to leave here because of my feelings for the guys on the team here.  Ever since I came here I have talked of my priorities – 1- God, 2- Family, 3- School, and 4- Football.  They understand this and most of them are beginning to live by it.  I am more proud of that than the number of wins and losses we end the season with.  There would be some that are mad, some that are sad, and some that don’t care one way or another.  It would be the hardest decision I have made professionally, and I wouldn’t leave my current position unless it was the best for my family – all around.

I am not actively looking for a new coaching or teaching position, but if something works out that Kelly and I can end up closer to family sometime in the near future I think we would have to seriously consider it.   Whether we are close to her parents, my parents, or even my extended family in SC. (which we are much closer to than most extended families are) I feel strongly that my boys deserve to have the same chances I did to be able to see their family as much as possible.  I know I was lucky that 95% of my family lived within 3 hours from where I grew up. We will see what the Lord has in store for our family.  Where will we end up? Here in Washington? Lexington? Whispering Pines? Or somewhere else that we haven’t even thought of yet?  We have put our faith in Him to lead us where He thinks we need to be.  Each place we go I hope we are living our lives, and teaching things the way He wants them taught.

So is the life of a coach and their family.  I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world. My family is priority number one…Where ever we end up, will be where we are supposed to be.

What about you all?  Have many of you felt this same way, or am I alone in these thoughts? It doesn’t have to be only coaches and teachers that are affected by this.